Once upon a time I may have been fairly cool...well, at least I thought that I was cool. But let's face it, after childbirth and all the things that go along with that, baby spit, etc all over me on a fairly regular basis, and lack of sleep which results in the inability to care what I look like, I can't say that cool is the word I would use to describe myself. I don't feel cool at all any more...I occasionally wear things that once upon a time I would not leave the house in, I haven't worn something other than "work" clothes or "play" clothes in quite some time, and I can honestly say I have had lipstick on probably three or four times in the last five years!
How did this happen? And how come it is so hard to actually care that much about it? Mostly it comes down to time and priorities. But let's face it...moms tend to put themselves last on the list as they work to take care of their husbands, children, homes, pets, employers, etc. It is hard to squeeze in "me" time. And when you have "me" time, don't you tend to spend it doing something productive or sleeping???? Despite all of this, I have found the quick cure for "uncoolness"...
A few weeks ago I went to my stylist for a trim...but I have to confess, on the way to the salon all I could think was that I hated what I was wearing and I was desperately hoping no one would really notice me at the salon. I always feel intimidated in there anyway...all the stylists are trendy and perfectly made up; I feel like I have to plan what I will wear and how I will look. As usual I had no time for any of that, but on the way to the salon I worked up some courage. I sat in the chair and said to Enes,
"We need to do some serious cutting today."
She just looked at me..."Really????"
"Yup...what do you think would look the best on me?"
The next thing I knew, I had a brand new hairstyle...a real style, an updated style, a cool style. I had a moment of panic thinking I wouldn't know what to do with it, but I have to report...four weeks later and I am loving my new, sassy, do.
The lesson here is this...we all deserve the chance to reinvent ourselves once in a while, the opportunity to do something that raises our confidence and reminds us that we are in control of our destiny. It doesn't have to be dramatic or life changing. Sometimes the little things can have the biggest impact.
