There is something special about the relationship between fathers and their daughters... My own relationship with my dad has always been one of the best in my life...he is the one man that I have always been able to count on, who does not ever let me down, and always wants the best for me. He is protective, but has always given me plenty of room to follow my own path, and make my own mistakes...and is usually the one that picks me up and dusts me off following one of those mistakes, telling me that I will be just fine.
O has been on a "daddy" kick herself... In typical three-year-old fashion she has told me several times over the last few weeks that she wants to play with daddy instead of me. She tells me this in her very manner of fact way, and I just smile and try to pretend I understand. The thing is I sort of do understand... she and I have certain personality traits that are very much alike, and there are plenty of times that we just annoy each other because we are so much alike. We are both stubborn, both like to be in control of a situation, and we both know the best way to do almost everything. That often results in my playing the "mommy is boss" card, which I am sure is frustrating to her. Why wouldn't it be easier for O to be with her dad?
So, I wonder... will it always be this way? Will it always be easier for O to be with her dad? Does he have an easier time letting her be herself? With me, I see how she reacts to situations and I can't help but think "this is how it started for me"... I want her to be her best self, and I don't want to see her put herself through some of the things I have been through. I like to think that some of the lessons it took me years to learn, I could teach her early so that she can avoid learning them the hard way. But can I really do that? Will she let me? Does she have to figure all of that out for herself to really get it? Maybe, I am suppose to take a lesson from my own dad and just step back and let her make her own mistakes...
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