A friend of mine sent me the following article this week... I think this was an effort to see if I could be coaxed into a blog topic...which, of course, I have totally fallen for. This is for you, my friend!
The following was written by John Carney, CNBC.com, in response to an article in TheGloss.com by Jennifer Wright... See the link... "Why Do Smart Men Date Dumb Girls?"
You all know that I cannot just walk away from this one without saying something, right? The article tries to answer the question of why smart men date dumb girls by suggesting that it is just easier... that it requires less effort on the part of the man if he chooses the dumb girl. The article also seems to suggest that for dumb girls, they have more motivation to go out with smarter guys and so they try harder to find those guys. Well... here are my two cents on this one...
Dumb girls, smart guys... Let's just get this one out of the way. The argument that a "dumb" girl wants to date a smart guy because she has few opportunities and needs the smart guy to take care of her, sounds pretty old-fashioned doesn't it? I would argue that the man who believes that he has landed a dumb girl because he is just so smart and she needs him to care for her may NOT be so smart himself... Perhaps the "dumb" girl is a lot smarter than he is giving her credit for... If she is smart enough to figure out how to get you to take care of her, maybe she isn't so dumb after all???
Smart guys, dumb girls... I get the argument that if you are Mr. Smart Guy and spend all of your time and energy focused primarily on a career, it may be difficult to "fit" a smart woman into that lifestyle. The reason it is going to be difficult is not only because she will have her own priorities, but she will demand that if you want her in your life you actually make some time in that busy schedule to see her. That requires time and effort, and maybe, sometimes, compromise...
I would argue that while the relationship will take more work, the rewards are greater (and how smart is the guy that does not know this?). The idea of the little woman at home awaiting your arrival each day after a hard days work may be appealing, but will it keep you challenged? Will you have something to talk to that person about, if all they do is spend their time waiting for you to make time for them? I think that short-term this type of situation may have some appeal, but in the long term the smart man is going to be bored and find himself in a relationship that feels pretty empty... The smart men that I know appreciate smart women in their life because they keep them on their toes...and whether they will admit it or not, those men like a good challenge, they enjoy the hard work required to get the best things in life.
So, now let's flip the whole situation around... if a smart man wants a dumb girl, does a smart girl want a dumb man??? I consider myself to be one of those smart girls, and personally, I like a smart man in my life for all the same reasons that I think a smart man wants a smart woman. I like a good challenge... I want a man that is strong in his own opinions and can handle it when I argue with him about current issues. I like a man who is passionate about the things he cares about, is always learning, and has a well-rounded life (unlike the career guy that seems to only have one thing going on?). This man won't just let me get away with anything because he thinks I am smarter than him... He will always keep things interesting and treat me like an equal...which makes the relationship good for both of us.
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